Frances Hagberg (Graham)
As I’ve commented in the past, I appreciate the practical information and the heartfelt comments from everyone. I’ve reread again various thoughtful ideas through this long discussion and made suggestions about truth and reconciliation to forge a path forward. (#190) Good practical questions today from Chris Bates; I'd like to know the response.
Meanwhile our brains are full of ideas. Perhaps it would be wise to quiet our minds with their lush desire for explanations. How do we listen and encourage others to listen? Have we given pause to wonder what might be in the minds and hearts now of various persons who participated in the drama of Gibsons? Not to judge them but to expand our capacity for awareness and compassion.
Many of us in our lives have stumbled here and there among our achievements. Most of us have faced difficult family situations. Somehow we have moved forward, and in many cases forgiven ourselves and others, if not forgotten, and gone on. What do our life experiences teach us about limitation, success, and improbable change? Is not one of the great lessons to strive to let go of the resentment, the hardship, the slights others can bring? How might our personal experiences inform what we think about Oberlin and Gibsons?
Do we have any idea what past or present member of the board of directors perceives about the situation? The police? Various business owners? Other participants and observers?
What do the surviving members of the Gibson’s family seek going forward? (See Lorna Gibson’s article in “commonsense.news”** (see note about website below) - https://www.commonsense.news/p/will-i-ever-see-the-36-million-oberlin.
(The judgment had not been paid as of 9/1 –perhaps it has by now). I read today that Lorna Gibson wants to replace antiquated compressors and rehire staff they had to let go. She reports only having 1 or 2 customers a morning and says she would like to rebuild the relationship with the college if possible after 5 generations. I learned that Allyn Gibson Senior died some months back.
I recall viewing the video of David Gibson (the father who died in 2019 of cancer not the grandfather) that night of the arrests saying something like “this cannot come to a good end.” It was as though he had an emotional reckoning of what would lay ahead. It is a haunting image. He somehow knew that win or lose the case there was no such thing as ultimately winning. (Lorna Gibson says that her husband David was offered a job as professor in chemistry at Ohio Wesleyan after his graduation but came back to join the family business at Gibsons).
Litigation is never a panacea; it is a useful though brutal mechanism in times of desperation. Several of you have ably clarified legal technicalities that help others understand the legal structure of the case. Litigation can be a necessary but harsh effort at remedy never to lightly engage.
What now can be the nonlegal approaches? It is one thing to use the past to heal. I can’t help but wonder if sometimes we are beating around the bush to pick apart past actions. How does Oberlin College move on after the bruising?
Does it help move forward to speculate further the motivations of people we never met or talked to UNLESS it is done with compassion? What can we accomplish for the future? Focusing on the rear view mirror can result in disaster in front of us. Revisiting actions from the past can be used with the specific intent to heal; otherwise it can become punitive, a fixation, an excuse, a dallying. I do not intend to minimize the horrors of American history, the brutality of today’s world on many. The past must be attended, observed, and dealt with.
Not that I can imagine it but what would happen if students and alumni quietly visited store keepers and others in the community and pledged concern for them? Is there truth to the rumor that current students have opinions and are filled with certainty where none exists?
What if any of us ever travelled to Oberlin and sought out people to listen? If we described what we heard them say could that help them, the school and ourselves? Ted, tell the board members to go out and listen beyond the walls.
FHG
**The website “commonsense.news” is one I never heard of until today that published the Lorna Gibson article. It is (if I understand correctly) run by a woman named Barri Weiss – who from 2017 to 2020 Weiss was an opinion writer and editor at The New York Times. Bari Weiss is a journalist and the author of “How to Fight Anti-Semitism,” which won a 2019 National Jewish Book Award. Barri Weiss is 2020 winner of the Per Ahlmark award “in recognition of her moral courage and eloquence in defending the principles of democracy.” She also the winner of the Reason Foundation’s 2018 Bastiat Prize, which honors writing that “best demonstrates the importance of freedom with originality, wit, and eloquence.”
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